Let me start by saying that I do not hate Paris Hilton. I have never met her. I do not know her. Nor do I want to meet or know her. I dont like to shop aimlessly, and Im not partial to little dogs so I doubt that we would have much in common.
What I dislike about Paris Hilton is what she represents. She represents the undeserving sense of entitlement that we all see far too often. She emulates a certain distain for the non-rich, non-beautiful people of the world. She is, to put it quite simply, better than the rest of us common folk.
But really…why shouldn’t she feel that way? Have we done anything as a populace to let her know that we find her behavior to be unacceptable? Or have we, as a society, sent quite the opposite message? Furthermore, what kind of message does this send to the young women in this world trying to figure out who they are and what they should be?
I offer you the following sentiments regarding what Paris has done to earn all this fame and fortune (and then I’ll let you know why this upsets me so):
Commenter #1: “Paris Hilton is one of the most successful women on the planet and she’s only 26."
Commenter #2: “And what did SHE do to receive that distinction? Now I asked you what SHE did, not what her NAME did.”
Cave-man’s response #1: “Her looks plays a big deal in her charm, she could have surrendered to sloth and gluttony [sic] like so many American have these days, 65% overweight? Maintaining that beautiful slender look of hers requires tremendous amount of will and discipline, none of which your typical "it's what on the inside that counts" self-righteous obnoxious fat chicks can grasp.”
Cave-man’s response #2: OK so I don’t have a chance in hell with that hottie, why should that stopping me from admiring (and drooling and wanking over) her? I still find her to be breath-takingly [sic] cute despite I am well aware that I got a snowball’s chance in hell to be with her. I could have resorted to sour grapes attitude and lie some more “I prefer woman with substance” (for whatever that supposed to mean), my chance with her has no bearing and will not change the fact that in this beholder’s eyes (moi) she is insanely beautiful… Next time before you foaming in the mouth about the importance of character or ethics perhaps you would want to explain why is it you think that dudes who pick women based on look will be sorry? Everyone has character flaws, what is it that hot-looking women as a group don’t have what plain-looking women as a group have?
EXCUSE ME? Are you f'in kidding me? This guy is saying that she earned her money (which she didn’t because no one would be paying her the kind of money they are simply because she’s hot…there are far hotter women out there that don’t get nearly the press or compensation) by starving herself? Oh wait…I’m sorry, she isn’t starving herself. She has a “tremendous amount of will and discipline”. It would seem, to this observer, that this is the only arena of her life in which she has displayed a “tremendous amount of will and discipline”. It certainly wasn’t on display when she drove with a suspended license. Furthermore…Am I the only person that has friends who are skinny yet eat like cows along with those that eat right and exercise yet struggle to keep their weight down to society’s standard of beauty?
But that isn’t even what bothers me about this kind of attitude…
What really chaps my hide is that this cave-monkey is completely cool with her deplorable behavior because she is HOT and has a “beautiful slender look”. The glorification of a juvenile delinquent (albeit a rather attractive juvenile delinquent) is A-Ok because he has been provided a perfect explanation for the line of drool coming out of his mouth while he gets his wank on?
Now, I’m not suggesting that this “man” go out with someone he isn’t attracted to. If skinny is your standard of beauty and that's what you're into…fine…but can we glorify people that are both beautiful AND have substance? Can we stop assuming that just because someone is not taken with her and the media coverage that surrounds her that he is gay/a loser, or she is fat/bitter?
Yeah...we should all just turn a blind eye to the absolutely HORRIBLE example she is setting for young women everywhere because men like cave-man need a fantasy for their evening wank. Cause...what we really need these days is a bunch of young women growing up knowing that as long as they look pretty and “watch that weight” they can do whatever they want...just so long as there are chumps like him to lap it up.
I’d say all of this to him, but he wouldn’t get it. He wouldn’t understand that by glorifying this behavior he says to the very women that he so desires that they can treat him like shit because he’ll keep on coming back for seconds. Just so long as long as he gets to keep “tappin’ that hot ass”.
He’d just say I’m jealous and/or fat. Some of you reading this may well be thinking that. I care. Really.
In the end, Paris is going to be fine no matter what. She’ll always have plenty of money, and when her looks fade she can afford the plastic surgery. I’m not all that worried about her.
But…I am worried about the message we are sending to our daughters/nieces/friends little girls etc. I am afraid that one of my nieces will fall prey to the idea that what is on the outside is more important than nurturing your whole self (and by that I mean…both your inner and outer beauty). I worry that one of these “men” that feel a woman’s worth and self esteem is or should be 100% tied up in the assessment of how “beautiful” they are on the outside will cause them heartache, or even worse, to feel that they are less of a person if they don’t measure up.
I really do…
What I dislike about Paris Hilton is what she represents. She represents the undeserving sense of entitlement that we all see far too often. She emulates a certain distain for the non-rich, non-beautiful people of the world. She is, to put it quite simply, better than the rest of us common folk.
But really…why shouldn’t she feel that way? Have we done anything as a populace to let her know that we find her behavior to be unacceptable? Or have we, as a society, sent quite the opposite message? Furthermore, what kind of message does this send to the young women in this world trying to figure out who they are and what they should be?
I offer you the following sentiments regarding what Paris has done to earn all this fame and fortune (and then I’ll let you know why this upsets me so):
Commenter #1: “Paris Hilton is one of the most successful women on the planet and she’s only 26."
Commenter #2: “And what did SHE do to receive that distinction? Now I asked you what SHE did, not what her NAME did.”
Cave-man’s response #1: “Her looks plays a big deal in her charm, she could have surrendered to sloth and gluttony [sic] like so many American have these days, 65% overweight? Maintaining that beautiful slender look of hers requires tremendous amount of will and discipline, none of which your typical "it's what on the inside that counts" self-righteous obnoxious fat chicks can grasp.”
Cave-man’s response #2: OK so I don’t have a chance in hell with that hottie, why should that stopping me from admiring (and drooling and wanking over) her? I still find her to be breath-takingly [sic] cute despite I am well aware that I got a snowball’s chance in hell to be with her. I could have resorted to sour grapes attitude and lie some more “I prefer woman with substance” (for whatever that supposed to mean), my chance with her has no bearing and will not change the fact that in this beholder’s eyes (moi) she is insanely beautiful… Next time before you foaming in the mouth about the importance of character or ethics perhaps you would want to explain why is it you think that dudes who pick women based on look will be sorry? Everyone has character flaws, what is it that hot-looking women as a group don’t have what plain-looking women as a group have?
EXCUSE ME? Are you f'in kidding me? This guy is saying that she earned her money (which she didn’t because no one would be paying her the kind of money they are simply because she’s hot…there are far hotter women out there that don’t get nearly the press or compensation) by starving herself? Oh wait…I’m sorry, she isn’t starving herself. She has a “tremendous amount of will and discipline”. It would seem, to this observer, that this is the only arena of her life in which she has displayed a “tremendous amount of will and discipline”. It certainly wasn’t on display when she drove with a suspended license. Furthermore…Am I the only person that has friends who are skinny yet eat like cows along with those that eat right and exercise yet struggle to keep their weight down to society’s standard of beauty?
But that isn’t even what bothers me about this kind of attitude…
What really chaps my hide is that this cave-monkey is completely cool with her deplorable behavior because she is HOT and has a “beautiful slender look”. The glorification of a juvenile delinquent (albeit a rather attractive juvenile delinquent) is A-Ok because he has been provided a perfect explanation for the line of drool coming out of his mouth while he gets his wank on?
Now, I’m not suggesting that this “man” go out with someone he isn’t attracted to. If skinny is your standard of beauty and that's what you're into…fine…but can we glorify people that are both beautiful AND have substance? Can we stop assuming that just because someone is not taken with her and the media coverage that surrounds her that he is gay/a loser, or she is fat/bitter?
Yeah...we should all just turn a blind eye to the absolutely HORRIBLE example she is setting for young women everywhere because men like cave-man need a fantasy for their evening wank. Cause...what we really need these days is a bunch of young women growing up knowing that as long as they look pretty and “watch that weight” they can do whatever they want...just so long as there are chumps like him to lap it up.
I’d say all of this to him, but he wouldn’t get it. He wouldn’t understand that by glorifying this behavior he says to the very women that he so desires that they can treat him like shit because he’ll keep on coming back for seconds. Just so long as long as he gets to keep “tappin’ that hot ass”.
He’d just say I’m jealous and/or fat. Some of you reading this may well be thinking that. I care. Really.
In the end, Paris is going to be fine no matter what. She’ll always have plenty of money, and when her looks fade she can afford the plastic surgery. I’m not all that worried about her.
But…I am worried about the message we are sending to our daughters/nieces/friends little girls etc. I am afraid that one of my nieces will fall prey to the idea that what is on the outside is more important than nurturing your whole self (and by that I mean…both your inner and outer beauty). I worry that one of these “men” that feel a woman’s worth and self esteem is or should be 100% tied up in the assessment of how “beautiful” they are on the outside will cause them heartache, or even worse, to feel that they are less of a person if they don’t measure up.
I really do…
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